Domestic violence is a behavior used by one person in a relationship to control the other. This can occur in a live-in, married or dating relationship. Abuse occurs in many forms including:
Violence against women can occur in spite of age, race, education, financial status or religious beliefs. Children are affected by domestic violence even if they are not witness to it.
With this type of abuse, a cyclic pattern occurs. It often begins with a disagreement leading to threats of violence. The abuser may act on these threats and then apologize or offer gifts to make up for their actions. The abuser may promise this will never happen again, although the cycle continues to occur.
Early Signs of Abuse
- Wanting to be with you all the time, tracking what you are doing and who you are with
- Tries to control how you spend your money
- Acts jealous or accuses you of being unfaithful
- Forces you to engage in sexual acts against your will
- Blames you for thier violent behavior and tells you that you deserve it
- Gets angry/violent when using alcohol or drugs
Questions to Ask Yourself
- Are you afraid of your partner?
- Has your partner ever actually hurt or threatened to hurt you?
- Do you constantly worry about your partner's mood or changes in behavior?
- Have you stopped seeing friends to avoid your partner's jealousy/anger?
- Does your parnter threaten to kell himself or herself if you leaver?
If you answer yes to some or all of these questions, you could be suffering abuse. Leaving an abuser can be dangerous, but staying in an abusive situation can be life-threatening. Start by telling someone you trust about the abuse.
For More Information
National Domestic Violence Hotline (800) 799-SAFE or (800) 799-7233
National Coalition Against Domestic Violence www.ncadv.org
- Court Appointed Special Advocates for Children - 423-461-3500 - Johnson City
- Crossroads Area Alcohol and Drug Assoc - 423-542-8011 - Elizabethton
- C.H.I.P.S. (a shelter for people in a domestic violence situation, provides clothing, food, shelter, court advocates, information and assistance about laws and community resources) - 423-743-0022 - Erwin
- SAFE House - 423-224-1300 - Kingsport
- Abuse Registry - 800-778-4504 - Nashville (can look up info on previous allegations, etc.)
- Adult Protective Services - DHS - 888-227-8366 (To report elder abuse)
- A Safe Harbor Home, Inc - 423-218-0774 - Greeneville, TN
- Sexual Assault Center of East TN - 423-202-6427 - Johnson City
- Child Protective Services - 877-237-0004 - Nashville
- Verizon Wireless Hopeline Program (available to survivors affiliated with participaing domestic violence agencies).